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ONEGUY4FUN INTERVIEW

Oneguy4fun has been publishing at ES since August 2001 - "Wow!" he says when he realizes that. "I can't believe it's been that long. It feels like I just started a few years ago." His first story was Breathless, a female domination tale, since when he has gifted us with almost twenty more. "Most of them are long stories or multi-part stories. I have a hard time writing short stories. I just get so into the story line that I can't stop writing."

Q. What was your most recent one?

"Discovering Mistress Sarah's World." It is a female domination story with a focus on feminization. The story itself is not true, but Mistress Sarah and many of the characters in the story are real. The many interactions I have with Mistress Sarah and her friends are the inspiration for the story. I'm in the process of writing a new chapter to the story.

Q. Now, is there anything you'd like to tell us about yourself?

On the surface I'm a pretty normal guy. I am married with two younger kids and I have a management job. My friends and peers see me as laid back and somewhat reserved. However, underneath the normalcy I am a kinky person. I am submissive and am addicted to female domination and teasing & denial. I have confessed my submission to my wife and she has been a good sport about it, entertaining some of my submissive and kinky needs.

Q. How and when did you begin writing erotic stories?

The EroticStories website got me hooked on erotica. At first I just read the stories. I really enjoyed the stories and always got aroused by reading them. I have a wild imagination and often thought that some of the stories could be even better if they were changed a bit (to accommodate my fantasies). Soon I got the courage to write one on my own. I received good feedback which encouraged me to continue. I haven't turned back since I started.

Q. Have you published anywhere other than ES.com?

Yes. I publish my stories on literotica and asstr.org.

Q. What is it about writing erotica that you most enjoy?

My mind is constantly filled with fantasies. Sometimes the only way to get them out of my head so I can think straight is to write them down. I always end up very aroused and horny when I write. For me writing erotica is fun and even a stress reliever. I also enjoy getting feedback from my readers. It makes me feel good to know that my writings are being enjoyed by others. Often times someone will tell me they've tried a few things from my stories or that they have shared my stories with their partner. I love to hear that. It makes me feel good to know that I inspired others to have more fun in the bedroom and it also motivates me to write more. I have met quite a few friends this way.

Q: What is your favorite category to write in, and why?

I love to write about how a woman seduces or manipulates a man into submission. To me the situation of a guy transforming from a normal every day guy to a submissive slave is thrilling. That power exchange is incredibly hot. I really enjoy the psychological aspects of domination.

Q. How much of yourself do you include in your stories?

Quite a bit. In my writings I focus on the mental aspects of domination. Many of the thoughts and emotions expressed in my characters are emotions and thoughts that I have experienced. However, the situations are not real. They may be similar to something I've done but in most cases the characters are much more 'edgy' and kinky than I am in real life.

Q. Is there anything that happens in your stories that you would really like to try in "real life", but haven't yet been able to?

Like most guys, I constantly fantasize about a threesome with two girls. Ideally I would be a slave and sex toy for the girls, existing solely for their pleasure. I would also love to have a Mistress use a strap-on on me.

Q. Does your partner or any of your friends know that you write? What do they think?

I have many online friends that read my stories and they encourage me to write more. None of my 'face-to-face' friends know about my writing. My wife does not know that I write erotica. I have confessed to her that I want to write an erotic book one day. She was concerned about others finding out about it.

Q. What, if any, difficulties do you face when writing - erotic writing difficulties and general writing difficulties? And how do you overcome them?

The hardest thing for me is writing a good ending. Most of the time I struggle with how to end the story. I want readers to feel satisfied or even impressed at the conclusion of the story. To overcome this, I brainstorm endings and pick the best one.

Q. How about in more general terms - how do you feel about the "outside world's perception of erotic writing?

It seems that more and more people are accepting of it or maybe I've just been doing it so long that I've lost touch with the real perception. Everyone has a right to their own opinion so I have nothing against people who do not like it. For me reading and writing erotica is an escape to a fantasy world. It's a fun way to stimulate your mind and senses. It also helps to inspire ideas and creativity in the bedroom which makes marriage so much fun.

Q. One thing that I love about ES is that you very quickly build up a community of fans, who enjoy writing to and hearing from their favorite authors. Do you have any favorite topics that have surfaced in these "conversations"?

I'm always interested in discussing female domination and female led marriages. I love to hear what others do and how it works for them. Also, I seem to have quite a following with my feminization stories. I receive lots of feedback from both guys and girls on these types of stories. This was a big surprise to me initially. I had never really been into feminization. I had read a few stories on the topic and it peaked my curiosity. As a challenge I decided to write one myself just to see if I could write on a topic I knew little about.

My lack of knowledge led me to research feminization and I even found myself chatting with online domes and experimenting with it myself. It opened my eyes to a whole new world. Soon my experiences and writings were intertwined. I struggled to understand how I could get so aroused from being feminized and so did the characters in my story. I think many of my readers experience the same struggles and can relate to the characters in my stories and that's why they enjoy them.

Q. How do you feel when you receive negative comments or very low votes from readers?

I'm o.k. with it as long as they provide good critical feedback. I'm always looking to improve. I do not like when somebody rates me low because they did not like the topic of the story. If my story is about a guy being feminized and you don't like feminization stories, then it's not a reason to vote low. Just move on to another story.

Q. And do you read, and respond to, other writers on the site? Who are your favorites?

Yes. There are many authors I enjoy. JillBaby is one of my favorites and also Dancing_Doll. Dancing_Doll is new to ES. She has an amazing talent for writing erotica.

Q. Do you remember the first pornography you ever saw?

It was probably when I was 8 or 9 years old. I found some of my Dad's magazines in the garage. Isn't that how we all discovered pornography?

Q. What's the kinkiest thing you have ever done?

I'm really into domination so I've done quite a bit. I love when my wife spanks me over her knee with her riding crop. Probably the kinkiest thing I've done was going to work wearing panties, stockings, cock ring and a butt plug all at once. I still blush thinking about it.

Q. Do you have any fantasies that you would like to fulfill?

Yes. I want to be a slave and sex toy to two beautiful dominant women for a weekend. I want them to take total control of me and tease me like crazy and use me for their pleasure. In my fantasy I am tied up and helpless as they ravish my body and force me to pleasure them.

Q. What is a major turn on for you during sex?

It is so hot to see and hear the pleasure from my wife. I love for my wife to order me how to please her. Also, as odd as this may sound, I love to be denied an orgasm. It's hard to explain but I get such an erotic high when I have sex and my wife orgasms but does not allow me to have one. In fact, that just happened last night.

Q. How about a major turn off?

I enjoy domination, but I'm not into the hard-core bitchy and cruel type of domination.

Q: How do you feel about same sex relationships, both personally and as a writer?

I don't have a problem with it. I have both straight and gay friends. Everybody has a right to choose who they want to be with. It's not something I would do but I often joke with my wife that I would not argue if she wanted to start dating other girls as long as I could watch when they have fun together.

Q. Do you explore these feelings, positive and negative in your stories?

Yes. I have written stories that have both male-male and female-female situations and I do delve into the emotional aspects of the same-sex situation.

Q. How long does it take for you to write a story? Could you talk us through the process?

It usually takes me a few months. The hardest thing is finding the time to write. I could sit and write all day if I had the time. Unfortunately with work and kids it's hard to find time alone. I have seriously thought about getting a laptop just so I can write on my lunch breaks at work.

Usually when I write I already have the storyline in my head because it's something I've been fantasizing about over and over again. I pretty much write free-form without any outline. When I'm done a story or a chapter I like to let it sit for a few days and then go back and read it with a fresh mind.

Q. What do you think is the best story you have published here?

That's a tough question. I've probably received the most feedback on 'Making the Perfect Husband' but I think 'Dominating Ken' is my best so far. A lot of the feedback I received on this story was very personal. I could tell this story touched a nerve with my readers and perhaps helped validate some of their own feelings. I met a few good friends as a result of this story.

Q. Is there anything else you would like to say to the readers of this interview and your fans? Now is your chance...

Thank you for all the feedback and encouragement to write. I really appreciate it and it motivates me. Feel free to drop me a note anytime.

Q. Finally, do you have a website or a blog, where your fans can visit and maybe learn more about you?

www.asstr.org/~oneguy4fun.

Please read OneGuy4Fun's stories.